Is it possible to allow yourself to love too much? Many years ago, I remember thinking that I couldn't possibly be able to love someone so much that I could be with them ALL THE TIME. I am an independent person, and I love my space. I like to go places alone, be alone, have my privacy, and enjoy my depressing music on repeat without someone standing over me asking me "what's wrong - why are you listening to this so much?" and giving me the I'm worried about you. look all the time.
But I met someone one day, and all I wanted to do was be around him. ALL THE TIME.
I fell so fast, so hard for him, that it worried even me, much less my family and friends. But just 3 months later we were wed, on February 28th in a magical ceremony where we were covenanted that if we lived and served well, we could be together forever. That's the ultimate "ALL THE TIME"!
We celebrated our 9th anniversary yesterday, and we looked back on our time together over a lovely quiet dinner. Somewhere over his pound o'beef, and my seared mahi-mahi, we wondered how we are here with 3 children, a slew of things keeping us busy, and marveled at the power of true love - keeping us grounded through it all.
We love each other - yes. But, what are the things that keep us together? Well, we like a lot of the same things. Little things, like music, and drooling over nice cars, and a cut of meat cooked to perfection. But going beyond that, I have come to be supportive of the things he loves. He has become supportive of the things I love. It would be really easy to become impatient with each others hobbies, fixations, needs, and desires. It is easy to fixate on our own happiness and feel as though our needs are not being met. However, we can usually pull ourselves out of that tailspin when we find we are stuck in ME mode. I'm thankful for someone that has this in him - to love unabashedly, and unashamed. My LOVE for him has grown over the years - it has not shrunk or diminished. I hope that I can still say after 30 years, or after 70 years... we still find the flame is still burning, and we are still smiling.
...and still having adventures!
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Happy Anniversary to you guys. What a beautiful little family you all are. I can just tell how much you love each other. 9 years...crazy, we are coming up on that too!
Thanks so much for your kind words on my blog. They really meant alot to me and to Thiago. He thinks so highly of Jon, and you as well. I think he misses those day, it was a good group back then. I wished we we lived closer as well, I feel like I know you so well through your blog and I can just tell how well we would all get along. Anywho, just wanted to say thanks!
Congratulations! What a lovely post- may you celebrate many more such years together.
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